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发信人: carbuncle (猜猜看我是谁？), 信区: Oversea
标  题: 在美国，别谈恋爱
发信站: 听涛站 (Mon Apr 26 13:54:24 1999), 转信

送交者: 晓　辰 于 April 18, 1999 17:12:31:                                       
                                                                                 
　 临 出 国 前 ， 听 人 谈 到 大 陆 留 美 学 生 生 活 时 说 ， 在 美 国 再 丑    
的 女 的                                                                         
都 有                                                                            
人 追 。 又 读 过 一 篇 文 章 ， 说 是 单 身 女 子 赴 美 ， 还 没 下 飞 机 就    
被 接 走 了                                                                      
。 我                                                                            
来 美 国 后 ， 发 现 事 实 就 是 如 此 。                                        
                                                                                 
　 　 八 月 份 在 北 京 美 国 大 使 馆 排 队 领 签 证 时 ， 环 视 厅 内 的 半    
边 天 ， 感                                                                      
觉 是                                                                            
在 西 北 的 黄 土 高 原 ， 怎 么 也 搜 寻 不 到 一 点 江 南 的 亮 丽 。 到 了    
美 国 中 西                                                                      
部 这                                                                            
座 不 大 不 小 的 城 市 的 这 所 不 大 不 小 的 大 学 后 ， 发 现 那 一 半 还    
不 如 在 北                                                                      
京 见                                                                            
到 的 黄 土 高 原 。 细 想 一 点 也 不 奇 怪 。 这 年 头 在 大 学 里 稍 有 一    
点 姿 色 的                                                                      
哪 能                                                                            
静 得 下 心 来 啃 “ 托 福 ” ， “ 纪 阿 姨 ” 。 于 是 ， 那 些 被 遗 忘 的    
人 们 暗 中                                                                      
发 奋                                                                            
， 面 壁 数 载 ， 在 天 姿 国 色 们 纷 纷 南 下 深 圳 、 海 南 时 ， 这 些 人    
反 其 道 而                                                                      
行 之                                                                            
， 不 依 不 靠 ， 飘 洋 过 海 来 到 了 美 利 坚 。                               
                                                                                 
　 　 有 道 是 ， 上 帝 是 公 平 的 。 在 美 利 坚 这 块 土 地 上 ， 从 大 陆    
来 的 单 身                                                                      
男 子                                                                            
俯 拾 皆 是 ， 未 婚 女 子 却 的 的 确 确 属 “ 珍 稀 ” 类 。 于 是 ， 这 些    
人 那 么 多                                                                      
年 的                                                                            
冷 清 、 寂 寞 都 无 一 例 外 地 加 倍 得 到 了 补 偿 。 我 认 识 的 一 位 女    
生 ， 看 一                                                                      
两 秒                                                                            
没 有 问 题 ， 再 长 了 非 得 下 一 番 决 心 不 可 。 但 仍 然 有 男 生 围 着    
她 转 。 至                                                                      
于 接                                                                            
站 ， 一 位 女 生 还 没 下 飞 机 ， 已 经 有 四 辆 车 等 着 ， 车 主 自 然 都    
是 清 一 色                                                                      
的 上                                                                            
几 届 男 生 。 而 男 新 生 往 往 等 上 几 个 小 时 才 见 到 接 站 的 人 ， 有    
的 左 等 右                                                                      
盼 不                                                                            
见 人 来 ， 只 好 咬 牙 叫 出 租 ， 尽 管 他 们 早 就 给 中 国 学 生 会 联 系    
过 要 求 接                                                                      
站 。                                                                            
                                                                                 
　 　 单 身 男 子 们 全 在 如 饥 似 渴 的 年 龄 ， 又 处 在 一 个 自 由 开 放    
的 文 化 环                                                                      
境 中                                                                            
， 让 人 面 红 心 跳 的 刺 激 无 处 不 在 。 于 是 一 个 个 欲 火 难 耐 ， 蠢    
蠢 欲 动 。                                                                      
但 问                                                                            
题 是 具 有 可 操 作 性 的 目 标 太 少 。 周 围 当 然 不 乏 金 发 碧 眼 的 妙    
龄 女 郎 ，                                                                      
而 且                                                                            
在 中 国 人 看 来 差 不 多 个 个 都 赛 过 天 仙 。 与 我 同 年 来 美 的 马 亦    
坦 陈 作 梦                                                                      
都 在                                                                            
想 着 洋 妞 。 但 想 归 想 ， 到 头 来 中 国 男 留 学 生 们 大 多 只 能 “ 望    
洋 兴 叹 ”                                                                      
。 语                                                                            
言 、 文 化 上 的 沟 壑 几 乎 难 以 逾 越 。 哪 怕 你 “ 托 福 ” 考 满 分 ，    
要 与 洋 妞                                                                      
谈 出                                                                            
恋 爱 来 却 还 差 得 远 。 况 且 洋 妞 都 是 在 “ 购 物 文 化 ” 中 长 大 的    
， 过 惯 了                                                                      
有 一                                                                            
百 花 两 百 的 日 子 。 大 都 靠 奖 学 金 免 强 度 日 ， 连 教 科 书 都 舍 不    
得 买 的 留                                                                      
学 生                                                                            
们 ， 又 哪 里 与 洋 妞 谈 得 起 恋 爱 。 于 是 ， 眼 光 都 盯 向 了 同 种 同    
文 的 单 身                                                                      
女 。                                                                            
对 许 多 单 身 汉 来 说 ， 此 时 此 地 乃 是 有 总 胜 于 无 ， 按 流 行 于 男    
留 学 生 中                                                                      
的 一                                                                            
句 话 说 ， “ 只 要 是 女 的 就 行 ” 。                                        
                                                                                 
　 　 未 婚 女 们 自 然 是 如 鱼 得 水 。 郑 冉 来 自 中 国 北 方 一 所 著 名    
的 学 府 ，                                                                      
细 眯                                                                            
的 双 眼 ， 小 巧 的 身 子 ， 胸 部 总 是 撑 得 高 高 的 。 刚 来 不 到 两 个    
月 就 与 一                                                                      
位 香                                                                            
港 来 的 已 婚 男 生 甜 蜜 得 胜 过 夫 妻 。 但 听 她 调 遣 的 还 有 好 几 个    
， 大 陆 来                                                                      
的 未                                                                            
婚 男 子 居 多 ， 也 偶 有 老 美 ， 间 或 有 身 分 不 明 的 五 六 十 岁 老 头    
。 据 她 的                                                                      
室 友                                                                            
说 ， 经 常 是 甲 刚 把 她 送 回 ， 乙 的 车 已 在 门 口 等 着 ， 连 那 位 香    
港 男 生 也                                                                      
常 常                                                                            
找 不 到 她 。                                                                   
                                                                                 
　 　 即 使 已 婚 的 ， 只 要 丈 夫 不 在 这 边 ， 也 会 有 人 盯 着 。 在 北    
京 办 签 证                                                                      
时 遇                                                                            
到 四 川 来 的 徐 虹 ， 那 时 丈 夫 还 跟 她 在 一 起 。 两 个 月 后 在 美 国    
问 她 何 时                                                                      
办 丈                                                                            
夫 过 来 ， 她 回 答 说 “ 那 已 是 过 去 式 了 ” 。 有 一 段 ， 见 她 与 一    
位 学 工 程                                                                      
的 男                                                                            
生 一 块 进 进 出 出 ， 后 来 又 听 人 说 她 有 另 一 位 男 生 的 房 门 钥 匙    
， 半 夜 开                                                                      
门 时                                                                            
哗 拉 拉 常 把 整 屋 的 人 都 吵 醒 。 又 后 来 ， 见 虹 在 街 上 与 一 位 陌    
生 男 子 拥                                                                      
吻 ，                                                                            
原 来 那 是 她 送 别 住 在 外 地 的 男 朋 友 。                                  
                                                                                 
　 　 其 实 ， 在 异 国 他 乡 闯 荡 的 单 身 女 子 们 面 临 着 一 般 人 难 以    
想 象 的 更                                                                      
多 的                                                                            
困 苦 艰 难 ， 急 切 需 要 有 人 伸 出 救 援 之 手 。 华 静 读 的 是 很 少 提    
供 奖 学 金                                                                      
的 电                                                                            
脑 专 业 。 家 里 并 不 富 裕 ， 带 来 的 那 点 钱 也 就 够 维 持 一 两 个 学    
期 。 到 美                                                                      
国 没                                                                            
有 几 天 ， 静 就 进 了 中 餐 馆 。 作 为 外 国 学 生 ， 当 然 还 得 上 课 ，    
交 比 美 国                                                                      
人 贵                                                                            
一 倍 的 学 费 。 静 周 末 打 工 的 那 点 收 入 ， 如 果 说 勉 强 可 供 自 己    
吃 住 ， 对                                                                      
昂 贵                                                                            
的 学 费 却 只 能 说 是 杯 水 车 薪 。 与 静 往 来 的 男 生 可 以 偶 尔 请 她    
吃 一 次 自                                                                      
助 餐                                                                            
， 却 无 力 替 她 付 学 费 。 热 心 的 人 当 然 不 是 没 有 。 那 就 是 餐 馆    
的 厨 师 。                                                                      
厨 师                                                                            
的 工 资 固 然 不 高 ， 也 就 每 月 两 千 美 元 左 右 ， 但 他 们 的 吃 住 餐    
馆 全 包 ，                                                                      
收 入                                                                            
是 只 进 不 出 ， 缺 的 不 是 钱 而 是 人 。 不 久 ， 静 去 餐 馆 打 工 时 就    
有 一 个 越                                                                      
南 籍                                                                            
的 华 人 炒 锅 把 接 送 都 包 下 了 。                                           
                                                                                 
　 　 袁 梅 十 五 岁 时 就 来 了 美 国 ， 学 的 是 阳 春 白 雪 的 钢 琴 。 学    
了 几 年 ，                                                                      
琴 艺                                                                            
没 有 多 大 长 进 ， 奖 学 金 却 弄 没 了 。 搞 艺 术 的 父 母 辞 职 做 起 了    
生 意 ， 为                                                                      
的 是                                                                            
要 交 梅 的 学 费 。 梅 与 一 位 台 湾 男 子 同 居 ， 吃 住 由 男 子 包 了 。    
不 知 怎 么                                                                      
， 两                                                                            
人 又 分 开 了 ， 梅 也 断 了 生 活 来 源 。 在 餐 馆 打 工 时 ， 梅 缠 着 老    
板 给 她 介                                                                      
绍 男                                                                            
人 ， 说 只 要 有 钱 ， 年 龄 多 大 都 行 。 老 板 说 ： “ 几 个 人 一 起 出    
钱 共 享 你                                                                      
行 吗                                                                            
？ ” “ 没 问 题 。 ” 梅 慵 懒 地 仰 靠 着 椅 子 ， 双 脚 翘 起 在 饭 桌 上    
， 回 答 得                                                                      
十 分                                                                            
干 脆 。                                                                         
                                                                                 
　 　 马 克 思 早 就 说 过 ， 资 本 主 义 把 人 类 一 切 烂 漫 、 勇 敢 的 美    
好 情 怀 全                                                                      
化 为                                                                            
冷 冰 冰 的 算 计 。 美 国 这 个 一 切 都 实 实 在 在 得 没 有 文 化 的 国 家    
， 对 人 的                                                                      
改 造                                                                            
真 正 是 “ 润 物 细 无 声 ” ， 全 不 搞 灌 输 那 一 套 。 在 享 受 无 边 无    
际 的 自 由                                                                      
的 同                                                                            
时 ， 每 个 人 都 会 真 真 切 切 地 感 受 到 一 根 鞭 子 无 处 不 在 ， 每 时    
每 刻 地 驱                                                                      
赶 、                                                                            
抽 打 着 自 己 。 这 根 鞭 子 就 是 钱 。 在 这 块 土 地 上 ， 没 有 钱 的 的    
确 确 是 万                                                                      
万 不                                                                            
能 的 。 悠 悠 万 事 ， 唯 此 为 大 。 爱 情 当 然 也 不 例 外 。                
                                                                                 
　 　 黄 贝 来 美 一 个 月 后 ， 妻 子 范 茵 就 过 来 了 。 两 人 青 梅 竹 马    
， 男 的 潇                                                                      
洒 ，                                                                            
女 的 俏 丽 ， 人 人 都 说 是 天 生 的 一 对 。 暑 假 ， 两 人 去 芝 加 哥 打    
工 ， 茵 再                                                                      
也 没                                                                            
有 回 来 。 朋 友 问 起 此 事 ， 贝 一 概 拒 答 ， 只 是 说 ： “ 在 美 国 ，    
别 谈 爱 情                                                                      
” 。                                                                            
                                                                                 

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